Adoption Story Part II- Could It Be??

Shortly after I got off the phone with the social worker, I talked to one of my good friends and co-worker Jamie Adams. I told her about our decision to adopt and she was really excited for us. Well, she went and told another co-worker of ours about our exciting news and this co-worker just so happened to have a daughter that was looking for a home for her baby. She and her boyfriend were already working with an adoption agency but had not yet selected parents for their baby. Within a week from the time that we decided to adopt, this co-worker called me one night and asked me if we were really pursuing adoption. I told her definitely " YES". God works in mysterious ways... doesn't he? We talked for a while and she said she would talk to her daughter and get back with me. She asked if we had made a profile yet through the adoption agency we were using and I told her I didn't but I did have a facebook that she could view if she would like. My heart was pacing about a million beats a minute. Was this really happening? Could this be the reason why I couldn't go through with the invitro fertilization? I didn't want to get my hopes up so I kept an open mind about things. That night I let things sink in for a while. The feelings were overwhelming. It felt so good and I felt a sense of sadness relief for the first time in a long time. I didn't know if it was going to work out with her daughter and us but I did feel more confident that this was the route we were supposed to be on. It was time for me to take my foot off that door I had be forcing shut for so long.

She talked to her daughter and told her about us and she went and looked at our facebook. At gladney they told her when she saw the couple for their baby, they would know. Her and her boyfriend wanted to meet us but her mother wanted them to look at other profiles just to make sure we were the ones they wanted to meet. I told her the agency we were using and the agency provided her with hundreds of profiles to look at. They didn't really like any of them. After some time went by we started messaging each other on facebook so we could really get to know one another. We asked lots of questions and were completely honest with each other. We saw pictures of each other and over some time got to know each other pretty well. Finally we decided it was time to meet. I was SO nervous to meet them!

I knew a lot was riding on this meeting. We decided to meet in a public place to do something fun... kind of like a double date thing. Before I went to meet them, I did some research from blogs of people that were adopted. They listed a bunch of questions that they wish they knew about their birth parents. I didn't quite understand why they would want to know answers to some of those questions because some were pretty odd but later I understood why. It was my back-up plan to break the ice if there was some quiet time. Finally that day comes, June 30th, 2009. That is a day I will never forget. We decided to meet at main event in Fort Worth, Texas and then we would leave from there to get some dinner.

When I first saw them, my first thought was how cute they were. I could feel love for them already starting to grow. They got in our car and were really quite at first. We first acknowledged that we were all nervous and decided to get over it so it wouldn't ruin our night. We asked lots of questions and they asked lots of questions and we got to know each other well. I even asked them some questions from my list I brought. I remember on question in particular that really stood out. It was what their favorite smell was. Her answer was the smell of old books. She liked to open them and get a whiff of the insides. I thought that was a unique answer but I know one day if we are the parents of their child and we saw him sniffing books we would know where he got it from. After dinner and some bowling we decided to go to The Purple Cow for some dessert. On the way there they were texting people on their phones. Later we found out they were texting each other. We went inside and sat down and ordered our milkshakes and they asked us some more in-depth questions. Finally they looked at each other and then looked at us and asked us if we would be the parents of their unborn baby. Brett and I were both in shock I think. I could feel my eyes welling with tears and the inside of me wanting to do cartwheels right then and there. I couldn't speak. These two people just told us the best news we have ever heard and I couldn't think of the words to say. We eventually told them we would LOVE to be the parents of their child. That was one of the best days of our lives. I felt so lucky and honored that they would choose us. Why us? I'm not sure. I am just ever so grateful that they did. They gave us something to have hope for. We had forgotten what that felt like.

Shortly after they blessed us with that wonderful news, her dad came to pick them up. We hugged and said good-byes but really it was just the beginning. When they left, Brett and I just sat in the restaurant and cried. We were just so happy. I don't think they will ever know how grateful we are. We even got to take home a menu from the diner to always remember that extra special day. Later that evening we started texting each other back and forth and our relationship just grew.