Becoming the Answer

God has this wonderful way of making the stars align just right so that certain people come in your life, and you just know the version of yourself you thought you were.... will never be the same. You learn something from them that will give you a whole new perspective on life as you know it and gain the tools you need to be better & finer than you are.
   When I read this quote, it immediately reminded me of our dear Birth Families. They were a HUGE answer to our prayers. Brett and I wanted children so so so badly and we worried it was never going to happen for us. It was a huge, painful, trial in our life. It was a very humbling time in our life that made us who we are today. We prayed for children every single day. Every. Single. Day. 6 years later we were blessed with our son Sawyer. As we had been praying for a child in our home, his Birth Parents had been praying for a home for their child. We were an answer to each other's prayer. The moment we met his dear Birth Parents, the past 6 years all made sense. It took us 6 years to gain the knowledge and appreciation we need to be Sawyer's parents.  It was a time of spiritual growth and a time of testing our patience. It was a refining process. Most importantly though..... it was SO worth it. Every tear we shed, every prayer we said, every plea we made, was so worth it.  Two years later, we were blessed with our 2nd son. We always knew we wanted to adopt again but this time we knew we just had to trust in the Lord's plan. Sawyer's adoption taught us that now matter how good we though our plan was, God's plan was better than anything we could of imagined. When Jamison and his dear Birth Mother entered our life, again... our prayers had been answered. So were hers. Again... God's plan was SO good!
    When adoption happens, something beautiful takes place. Two worlds come together to make a child's world one. A unity is created between 2 women that is greater, stronger, and so divinely sacred. It is a deep bond with such a profound love and appreciation for one another. I love our Birth Moms and Birth Dads so much. When times get rough, I will fight for them; To push past my own insecurities and always give them the benefit of the doubt. If I feel them pulling away I will reach out and beg them to stay if needed. I will always honor their special role in our children's life and nurture the hero role they are to us. If there are concerns, we address it. If I have a need, I tell them. If I have a prompting, I'll act upon it. Their value is so worth it to us and they are greater than mistaken assumptions. If they're sad I'll be their shoulder. When their happy I’ll gladly share their joy. We will always have each others back. One day I hope they will see the version of themselves that I see in them. They will see the love I have for them being in my life and finally they will fully see what their worth is to me.  The relationship I have with them is unlike an other relationship I've ever had. It's rare and it's beautiful. My son Sawyer's Birth Mother recently wrote this on her facebook, "I gave you life, and she made sure it was worth living. The relationship between a birth mom and her child's mother is so special and unique!" When I read that it made my day :-)